Ways to get information
Ideally, visit the department on their graduate recruiting day OR, if that date doesn’t work out, try to spend at least a day there to meet people in the department you’re applying to.
If you’re visiting, have them show you their lab, facilities, where students regularly work. Find out everything you can so you can picture, “What will life be like here?”
Indeed, websites do not tell the full story, but they can tell part of a story about the group’s culture.
As with all archetypes, most people demonstrate a combination of traits from different archetypes rather than falling into solely one category. For example, there is a very well-cited chemistry demagogue professor who also uses their website to invite visitors to their Sunday Bible studies.
Websites certainly can give you a glimpse into your prospective mentor’s personality and group culture, and many academics post on social media as well.
Their online presence won’t tell the full story, but notice your reactions. Your reactions to how they talk about their members, share updates, and showcase themselves give you a trailhead for further inquiry into their style and priorities, as well as your own.
How to approach someone to talk about someone else
Tip: Introduce yourself, be transparent and direct with your request, and phrase it in a way so that it's very easy for your counterpart to say no.
If you can, meet in person. If it is not an in person meeting, make it a phone call. If you speak through a web meeting, consider it confidential. Do not record it, and do not share any sensitive information with attribution to anyone else.
Regardless, frame your questions and reactions through the lens of curiosity. If we're not part of an experience, it's impossible to know the "ground truth" about it.
After such a conversation, take time to reflect on what you're thinking and feeling based on what you heard. Reactions result from a blend of what we hear and our existing experiences, values, and biases. Use the same curiosity to distill out some truth about what's important to you and how you can take responsibility for getting what you need.
What if I can’t get in touch with anyone?
What if I am later not happy with my choice?
It’s not the end of the world.
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